...best advice I've heard all year.

[misora]

seen at literaryquotes today:


"And please don't laugh at me now, but I think the reason it's so hard for me to get over this guy is because I seriously believed David was my soul mate."

"He probably was. Your problem is you don't understand what that word means. People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it. Your problem is, you just can't let this one go. It's over, Groceries. David's purpose was to shake you up, drive you out of that marriage that you needed to leave, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light could get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you had to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master and beat it. That was his job, and he did great, but now it's over. Problem is, you can't accept that this relationship had a real short shelf life. You're like a dog at the dump, baby -you're just lickin' at an empty tin can, trying to get more nutrition out of it. And if you're not careful, that can's gonna get stuck on your snout forever and make your life miserable. So drop it."

Eat, Pray, Love - Elizabeth Gilbert


...thank you.

Comments

[jerkycrackhead.livejournal.com]

T-that's a very eloquent quote.. ;_;

[misora.livejournal.com]

It's very true, as well. *hugs*

[darkelf19.livejournal.com]

*huggles* Oh wow, I had no idea. That's a lot to deal with in a very short amount of time. I know, I've been there myself. Your friend is right about soulmates. I met mine, he changed me in every way possible and then he was gone. I still love him, I always will, but I know now that we could never be together in a long term relationship. All I can say hon, is hang in there. He's gone and someday you'll be able to look back and smile at the good times instead of crying. Just take it a day at a time. And don't forget the lessons you've learned. You're a new person now, enjoy it and go live your life instead of just watching it go by.

[misora.livejournal.com]

oh. Actually this book excerpt (not a friend of mine) reminded me of someone I'd had an intense crush on a long while ago, and it made me realize why it'd been so hard to completely let go of this one person. It isn't so much for me about the end of a serious relationship, as it is a reaffirmation of why I thought this person was so important to me at the time -- and, additionally, why things wouldn't have ultimately worked out for us anyway.

:) So, no worries. I'm enjoying my life. I just like to indulge in some heavy introspection now and then. ;)

[darkelf19.livejournal.com]

Ah, ok. Still... *huggles*

[(Anonymous)]

This is a great quote.

[jerkycrackhead.livejournal.com]

I know. I'll definitely be keeping all of this in mind for whatever future's ahead of me. There's just nothing more renewing than some fresh words of wisdom~.

..besides whatever that thing is on my icon.

[misora.livejournal.com]

...


crap, now I want a frappucino. D:

[misora.livejournal.com]

*huggles back!*

[misora.livejournal.com]

It is. I need to watch that comm, I think.

[rapturesmusic.livejournal.com]

That is beautiful...wow. It reminds me of a saying I learned when I was in my early teens. Here's the link: http://www.naute.com/love/reason.phtml

I'm gonna have to watch that comm.

[jerkycrackhead.livejournal.com]

That brings me back to the good ol' days! Back when I fell victim to something just like that.. :|

[manonlechat.livejournal.com]

True, true...

But dropping that can can be so hard.